{"id":10609,"date":"2026-07-29T09:58:33","date_gmt":"2026-07-29T06:58:33","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/annakarakerezi.gr\/does-revenge-heal-or-prolong-pain-before-you-embark-on-a-journey-of-revenge-dig-two-graves\/"},"modified":"2026-08-30T11:50:26","modified_gmt":"2026-08-30T08:50:26","slug":"does-revenge-heal-or-prolong-pain-before-you-embark-on-a-journey-of-revenge-dig-two-graves","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/annakarakerezi.gr\/en\/does-revenge-heal-or-prolong-pain-before-you-embark-on-a-journey-of-revenge-dig-two-graves\/","title":{"rendered":"Does Revenge Heal or Prolong Pain? “Before you embark on a journey of revenge, dig two graves.”"},"content":{"rendered":"\n
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The desire for revenge rarely comes simply from cruelty. More often, it emerges after we have been deeply hurt, betrayed, or wronged, when the experience has shaken not only our trust but also our sense of safety and self-worth. In those moments, the thought \u201cI want them to hurt the way I hurt\u201d can feel like a way of restoring balance: if the other person suffers too, perhaps our own pain will become easier to bear. Yet revenge often does precisely the opposite. It keeps our attention fixed on the wound, fuels anger and rumination, and maintains a powerful psychological connection to the person who hurt us. What promises liberation can therefore become another way of remaining emotionally bound to the very experience we are trying to leave behind. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Moving beyond revenge does not mean forgetting what happened, excusing injustice, or abandoning our boundaries. It means refusing to allow what was done to us to continue determining who we are and how we live from this point forward. Genuine healing begins when the question shifts from \u201cHow can I make them pay?\u201d to \u201cHow can I heal?\u201d\u2014and when the energy once invested in retaliation is redirected towards rebuilding self-worth, grieving what was lost, personal growth, and life itself. Perhaps the greatest form of strength is not having the power to hurt the person who hurt us, but reaching the point where we no longer need to hurt them in order to feel whole again.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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The full article was originally published on the Psychology Portal \u2013 Psychology.gr.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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